WHAT IS ANGER?
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. Buddha
Anger is a normal human emotion and covers a range of emotions including rage, exasperation, irritability, frustration, annoyance, resentment and hostility to name a few. When you experience feelings of anger your body undergoes physical changes as the hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline are released.
Changes can include:
- feeling tightness in your muscles, your jaw and your arms
- your heart may start to pound as your heart rate increases
- your breathing can become shallow and fast
- your face can feel flushed, you may feel hot and sweaty
Anger is associated with negative emotions and is often a cover for other difficult emotions such as fear, sadness or grief. Expressing fear and grief can be difficult so anger can often take their place. Anger can also arise due to unfairness, personal issues, being hurt and ruminating on injustices.
Anger is a natural part of the fight or flight response to danger. It becomes a concern if it creates problems in your life, or in the lives of those around you.
SIGNS THAT ANGER IS A PROBLEM
Anger may be uncomfortable to feel, but it only becomes a problem when it is expressed in harmful ways. This harm can be to yourself or to others.
If you find yourself in the following situations it could be a sign that anger has become a problem for you:
- People around you feel your anger has become abusive and those relationships are in danger
- You feel angry a lot of the time
- You are becoming depressed and/or anxious about your anger
- You are using alcohol and/or drugs to help manage your anger
- You think anger is the answer to getting what you want
LEARNING TO MANAGE YOUR ANGER
You can learn a range of strategies to manage your anger. Kristina Challands, a Brisbane North based psychologist will work with you to learn what triggers your anger. Then, you can learn techniques to help you calm down before the situation escalates out of control. Next you learn to express your anger in a healthy way.
Conflict is inevitable and we can learn skills to manage our needs in a healthy, constructive way.
ANGER MANAGEMENT WITH KRISTINA CHALLANDS
Call Samford 0487 480 120 or complete our online booking form to make an appointment with Kristina Challands to learn to manage your anger in a healthy way and make changes for the better. Kristina is based in North Brisbane, Samford.
Don’t hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love. – Leo Buscaglia