Couples Therapy and Relationship Counselling
Do you think you might benefit from couples therapy? Read on to understand more about relationship counselling and how it can help you and your partner heal, grow, and more forward. Kristina is a couples counsellor based in Samford Valley servicing Brisbane Northside.
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Meaningful relationships are where we get our greatest joy as humans. As tribal creatures our ability to be vulnerable and connect with someone else goes right to the heart of what we crave in life.
Creating meaningful relationships isn’t always easy. This is because our brains have evolved to help us survive. It’s easy to get hooked up in the fears and anxieties of modern life when we have glossy social media posts, unrealistic romantic movies and societal expectations all around us for comparison. Consequently, our mind is constantly checking “Am I good enough?” and “Do I fit into the tribe?”
Furthermore, even literature gives a picture of happily ever after or dying of heartbreak. So what can we expect in a happy relationship? What is realistic in today’s world?
evidenced based therapy
Dr John Gottman and the Gottman Institute have been researching and collaborating with relationship researchers around the world for the last forty years. What has emerged is a solid understanding of what makes a successful relationship “the masters of relationships” and what happens when relationships don’t work – “the disasters of relationships”. This research is utilised by Gottman trained therapists to help couples develop the skills that they need to create satisfying relationships in their lives.
The Sound Relationship House framework has been developed by Dr John Gottman and Dr Julie Gottman-Schwartz as a result of this research. This framework includes data from studies of thousands of couples including longitudinal (over several years) studies, and including couples from all walks of life. The Sound Relationship House provides a great blueprint for creating healthy meaningful relationships.
HELPING COUPLES HEAL & MOVE FORWARD
Kristina is trained in Gottman Method for Couples (Level 3), an evidence based couples therapy backed by 40 years of research. Gottman Method Couples Therapy provides:
- Proven strategies and tools to help couples successfully manage conflict
- Skills that empower partners to discuss their worst gridlocked issues
- Methods to help couples process their fights and heal their hurts
- Techniques for couples to deepen their intimacy and minimise relapse
If you’d like to learn how to get to know your partner’s inner world, create fondness and admiration for each other, keep a positive perspective, find dreams within conflict, create shared meaning and support each others dreams and aspirations – working with a relationship therapist can help you develop the skills to build your own sound relationship house.
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Couples therapy begins with a thorough assessment over three sessions to understand your unique situation. Starting with the completion of an online assessment (about 90 minutes each), the results are sent to Kristina for analysis. This is followed by a conjoint session with Kristina to understand your issues and how they have developed over time. Next there are individual interviews with each partner. The final phase of the assessment is a detailed feedback session with collaborative planning for the intervention phase. At this stage we decide on the frequency and duration of the sessions.
The Gottman interventions are designed to assist couples develop skills to repair, rebuild and rejuvenate their relationship. Key elements of the therapeutic process include repairing past hurts and replacing negative conflict patterns with positive interactions; building closeness and intimacy to deepen friendship and emotional connections; and developing new ways to support the relationship and each partner’s hopes and dreams.
During your couples therapy sessions you can expect to:
- Refresh and deepen your friendship
- Improve your communication skills
- Process a betrayal
- Repair past incidents and misunderstandings
- Better understand each others fears, hopes and dreams
- Refine your shared values and purpose
- Revive your intimacy
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Intensive Couples Retreats
In addition to providing couples therapy on an hourly and weekly basis Kristina is now scheduling appointments for Intensive Couples Therapy in the beautiful Samford Valley. In this powerful therapy format the sessions run from 9am to 5pm on two consecutive days. If your relationship is in crisis, all-day sessions provide a condensed and highly focused approach to relationship issues that can help couples move quickly through specific issues and learn important new skills in a short period of time.
The intensive therapy sessions take place at Kristina’s garden retreat in Samford about 23 kilometres from Brisbane’s CBD (about 30 minutes drive). We commence each day at 9am; break for morning tea (provided) and at lunchtime you can eat at one of the many cafes or restaurants in Samford Village. We wrap up the day around 5pm. I suggest you suspend any difficult discussions until the next day and spend the evening together to put into practice some of the relationship building skills you’ve been learning. You can choose to stay at your usual accommodation or check into one of the many BnB style accommodation places around Samford Valley.
A follow up session is included to consolidate the coaching. Further sessions can be booked if required. Many couples choose to have “check in” sessions at increasing intervals over a few months.
Intensive couples therapy is suitable for clients travelling from out of town who cannot attend weekly therapy sessions. Zoom (online) sessions are available for the assessment and follow up sessions for those clients outside easy travelling distance.
Working with a Gottman trained therapist can help you learn the skills to build, manage and maintain your unique relationship. For more information or to book an appointment phone 0487 480120 or book online. Evening appointments available on request.
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