Refresh Your “Story of Us”
Most couples have a “story of us” that forms the basis of family myth and legend. Couple Jordan and Riley have a negative story that tends to predict the way they view their interactions and relationship. Dr John Gottman calls this ‘negative sentiment override’. It...
Turning Towards Our Partner to Build Trust
Every day in so many ways we have the opportunity to turn towards our partner and answer their bids for connection. When our partner calls out, “Honey check out this guy on TV”, they’re making a bid for connection. You may be busy finishing an email, cooking dinner or...
36 questions, do they lead to love?
You’ve probably heard of the 36 questions that lead to love recently made popular by a New York Times columnist and featured in many places since then. And you might have scrolled through some of the questions; you probably scoffed a little (as if this could really...
Can you strengthen love by creating shared meaning?
The difference in our understanding of many words and symbols comes from our childhood. These misunderstandings can cause big rifts in a relationship.The answer is to create shared meaning.