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36 questions, do they lead to love?
You’ve probably heard of the 36 questions that lead to love recently made popular by a New York Times columnist and featured in many places since then. And you might have scrolled through some of the questions; you probably scoffed a little (as if this could really...
How well do you really know your partner?
“What do you mean you don’t like word games?” I asked my husband last week. “We used to play Scrabble a lot when we met. What’s changed?” When we first meet our partners, we usually spend a lot of time getting to know each other. Time on the phone, time...
Is it Self-Care or Self Care? And other important questions related to caring about YOU
What is Self-care (or Self Care)? I am not just talking about going for expensive spa treatments or a yoga retreat in a remote hilltop in India. It can be any – ANY – activity that we do that takes care of our mental, emotional and physical health. It could be getting...
If this was true love, we wouldn’t need couples therapy
If this was true love, we wouldn't need couples therapy. This is a common belief from clients, but is it true? The research tells us that successful relationships take skills that can be learned. The Research Dr John Gottman has been researching relationships for over...
Can you strengthen love by creating shared meaning?
The difference in our understanding of many words and symbols comes from our childhood. These misunderstandings can cause big rifts in a relationship.The answer is to create shared meaning.
23 Low-cost At Home Date Night Ideas
23 Low-cost At Home Date Night Ideas Date nights are a great way to build a solid friendship base after the heady days of falling in love. How do you keep the fun and romance alive in your marriage? Research by the Gottman Institute for their Bringing Baby Home...
What I learnt during a month of mindfulness
Is mindfulness over hyped? Mindfulness is such a buzzword now, but is it over hyped? I thought I knew a little bit about mindfulness so I set out to find out if all the hype was warranted. During March, I ran a popup Facebook group “Mindful March”. In the group I went...
Coping with school holiday co-parenting complications
You’ve probably been there. You’re finally about to have that catch up with friends that you’ve been planning for weeks. And without explanation, your ex texts to say they’ll be three hours late to collect the kids. It’s hugely annoying. It’s also a common...
Tips for Making Meaningful New Year’s Resolutions
Do you make New Year’s resolutions and find something always gets in the way? Procrastination, old habits or the busyness of life? Here are some tips for tackling your 2018 resolutions with a new mindset. Recently, I reflected with some clients and asked a few...
How to stop perfectionism ruining your Christmas
This week two clients have lamented the stresses of “creating the perfect Christmas”. Read on for tips on overcoming perfectionism this Christmas. Are you hooked up with perfectionism? Do you strive to find the perfect gifts? Do you attend to miniscule details of gift...
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