Turning Towards Our Partner to Build Trust
Every day in so many ways we have the opportunity to turn towards our partner and answer their bids for connection. When our partner calls out, “Honey check out this guy on TV”, they’re making a bid for connection. You may be busy finishing an email, cooking dinner or...
36 questions, do they lead to love?
You’ve probably heard of the 36 questions that lead to love recently made popular by a New York Times columnist and featured in many places since then. And you might have scrolled through some of the questions; you probably scoffed a little (as if this could really...
How well do you really know your partner?
“What do you mean you don’t like word games?” I asked my husband last week. “We used to play Scrabble a lot when we met. What’s changed?” When we first meet our partners, we usually spend a lot of time getting to know each other. Time on the phone, time...
If this was true love, we wouldn’t need couples therapy
If this was true love, we wouldn’t need couples therapy. This is a common belief from clients, but is it true? The research tells us that successful relationships take skills that can be learned. The Research Dr John Gottman has been researching relationships...
Can you strengthen love by creating shared meaning?
The difference in our understanding of many words and symbols comes from our childhood. These misunderstandings can cause big rifts in a relationship.The answer is to create shared meaning.